I’ve never been anonymous in this space, which in hindsight is a good thing. Anonymity gives you something to hide behind, a shield between you and the people you know IRL. It also comes back to bite you in the arse when you discover that you aren’t as anonymous as you thought you were.
In reality, nothing on the internet is truly anonymous and you will get shopped for something, eventually.
I’m glad therefore that I never had that to hide behind. For me, it’s meant a close examination of my ideas and what I will and won’t share on the ‘nets. It means that things happen, bad things, and I don’t talk about them here because it involves people whose level I wouldn’t stoop to. Vitriolic blog posts hurt more than being screamed at in person. Trust me, I know this.
Not being anonymous in any shape or form also means that I get to stop and assess how much of my children I am prepared to share with the world at large. How much do I want to be known about them from my viewpoint? How much do I want their schoolmates to be able to find when they’re older?
Tough questions and tougher answers.
I’m not sharing as much here anymore, which is good and bad. Using this space to concentrate on myself and other things has been good for me, so much of my life is tied up in the children and their various needs that a space for myself is sorely needed. That said, I miss the easy sharing and camaraderie, the feeling that we’re all in the trenches of motherhood together.
My kids are hard work. The screaming in my house is only drowned out by the silent screaming inside my head. Amy is beautiful and wonderfully smart, but holy crap can she mask her issues while we’re out in public, leaving me with no support, because people don’t see her at her worst.
Isaac is having Issues. We don’t know what the fuck is going on, but we’re in the depths of an autism assessment and diagnosis process – something, incidentally, that was meant to happen for Amy 6 months ago and instead our Paed dragged his heels about it. I’m sorry, her issues are getting worse with time, not better. Isaac’s issues may be rooted in autism, but we appear to have a swallowing issue, on top of bowel issues, EDS issues and some major major sensory issues.
It just seems too much sometimes, you know?
Normality was never something I was going to get, I’m quirky and odd myself, and normal has never been my thing, but jesus, I’d like something to happen easily.
Amy starts school on Wednesday. I got her papers and information from Early Intervention the other day, outlining her issues and what she’s likely to struggle with. Guess what you guys, she can stay on task for 30 seconds without adult help. 30 fucking seconds, before someone needs to sit with her, cheerleading her and cajoling her into finishing. I’m pretty sure 30 seconds is a generous estimate by the way. She can also open gates, climb out windows and scale walls. She can certainly get through every single security measure we’ve got here, including dead bolts and window latches well above my head.
I’m terrified that the school will lose her, even with the extra assistance she is going to be getting. For fucks sake, we’ve got 2 adults here, to 2 children and WE lose her. Knowing that they have an obligation to keep your child safe is small comfort when your child is as quick as Amy.
Privacy issues also mean that as they get older, I am less comfortable talking about what they are dealing with specifically. I share parts of things, but not the whole story. Really, who wants to read about the daily grind of trying to get Isaac to swallow something, anything, for the love of god child, you cannot live on milk alone.
Blogging started as a way for me to get things out of my head, and to connect to other mothers. However, the trials and tribulations of a sleepless baby are a bit different to watching your daughter try and make friends while your heart breaks into tiny pieces.
As Amy moves into school and Isaac grows up, they’re becoming the supporting cast, not the main characters.
It would seem that Mummyblogging, for me, does indeed have a use-by date.
I think I’m okay with that.
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