Author: Veronica

  • Sometimes, people are utter bastards. So is the weather.

    On top of the stress, some bastard stole 17 of my ducklings.

    I am, as you can expect, rather angry about this.

    The ducklings were here and accounted for at 4.30pm when we got home from Isaac’s psych assessment and I couldn’t see them at 7pm last night when I was on the phone to Mum. At the time, of course, I just assumed that the mother had put them and herself to bed already, and I filled up the water containers, didn’t bother doing a full head count and went back inside.

    This morning when I woke up to a frost, I figured I’d best check to make sure everything had survived the night.

    Outside, I found 3 ducklings with one mother and one mother with no babies at all.

    A quick walk around the paddock found one duckling in a nest that they’d slept in, obviously suffocated – this duckling belonged with the 3 other live babies. (How can I tell you ask? They were slightly different colours, because of a 2 day age difference). Obviously that mother had slept indoors with her 4 babies.

    A long slow walk around the paddock turned up nothing.

    A detailed examination of all the water containers, the blackberries, the septic tank, the marshy back corner and ALL the surrounding paddocks (risking electrocution and plover attacks), plus the sides of the road and the paddock across the road, showed nothing.

    17 ducklings, vanished.

    Last night, as I cooked dinner, Maisy barked at the window. We ignored it, being busy, figuring she was barking at the cat. Now, we assume she was barking at whoever was in the yard, stealing ducklings. Cars and people stop at the front of our house all of the time, so it’s not something we pay attention to anymore.

    Moral of the story? Always check when the dog is barking. Always.

    I’ve been on the phone to the police this morning who agree with me, that losing 17 is definitely theft, as a hawk or snake would only take 1-2, and not 17 in a 3 hour time frame. And if they’d died of anything else, I would have found remains.

    I am so upset. They’re only 4-5 days old and so so fragile still. They won’t survive if they’re separated from each other and they’re probably already doing badly without their mother. I’m worried about them, hand rearing ducklings is hard work. The RSPCA has also been notified, so that they know to ring me if ducklings start arriving there.

    On top of the duckling theft, we had a major frost that wasn’t forecast on my weather forecast and I lost nearly the entire contents of my garden.

    All of my tomatoes are dead, or dying. I didn’t even get any to ripen on the bush this year. I’ll save what I can for green tomato chutney and for ripening inside, but still. That’s over 100 tomato plants dead.

    All my pumpkins died. I was able to rescue 3 half grown pumpkins off the vines, but all the vines are dead.

    All of the zucchini. All of the corn, the basil, the cucumbers.

    Everything.

    You know how sometimes it just feels like too much? Yeah, this is too much. The stuff in my garden was for preserving and bottling, to get us through winter, on a tight budget. The ducklings would have been sold at the growers market in a few months.

    I am Not Impressed.

  • Ethics and integrity

    A while ago, the Blog With Integrity movement swept through the US mummybloggers. Like most things, I ignored it, because having a button on my sidebar isn’t going to change who I am deep down, and you’ve either got integrity, or you don’t.

    I spoke on a panel at the University of Tas almost 12 months ago and walked away knowing that because bloggers don’t have unions and a legal team to protect them, this means that we need to try twice as hard to adhere to good ethics.

    Ethics are something we seem to avoid discussing here, because we don’t want to accuse anyone of not being ethical, but I think it’s a discussion that might be a bit overdue, so I’m going to jump up on my soapbox with a drum for a while.

    Ethics are what make us good people. They’re the difference between us creating good original content, or being link farms. They’re what make us tread the line between being inspired by someone, or stealing content and making up a story to go with it. You don’t believe that happens? It does. Bloggers have had their lives stolen before and it will likely happen again.

    You can have the best content in the internet, but if you’re not seen as honest, or ethical, people won’t touch you, and people are sponsors, they’re your traffic. People are everything.

    It can take years to build a reputation, but treating people badly will destroy it, very quickly.

    I have a few rules I stick to, that work for me.

    1) You don’t know who someone is? It doesn’t matter. Treat everyone with the same amount of respect, regardless of how “big” or “small” you consider them to be on the Internet.

    2) Be honest. If you say something, own it. You might still be wrong anyway, but at least you’ve owned it. You might also be in the right, and still spend hours defending what you said. Disclose your relationship with sponsors. I don’t care that it’s not law in Aus yet, transparency is never a bad thing. This is one area we can do better in than old media.

    3) Link. Link link link link. You love something and it inspired you to write? LINK. You quote someone? LINK. You want to discuss a point that someone made? Link them. If you link, then people can read as much as possible on the topic you’re talking about. News sites sometimes forget to link when we’re quoted and bloggers get grumpy. It doesn’t mean that we have to forget to link too.

    4) Be accessible. I want people to be able to comment here, honestly. I want feedback and I want conversation. Being accessible, for me, means following back on twitter and engaging in discussion. It means replying to tweets and following on from that…

    5) Reply to emails. I cannot tell you how frustrating I find people who don’t reply to emails. I hate sending an email and getting no reply, I think it’s the height of rudeness. I like email conversations and backwards and forwards and will sometimes email for days with people. If you email me about something, I will reply. Exceptions are made for viagra sellers. If you’ve emailed me and I haven’t responded at all, it’s because my kids have been into my emails clicking things and it’s shown up as already read, so I don’t double check it. Send it again.

    I strive to be nice to everyone. In real life, I am terribly awkward and I have issues with small talk and knowing what to say – that doesn’t mean I’m not nice, or that I don’t like you. It means that I have social anxiety and I don’t know what to say to make the conversation flow. You can find me at the conference either organising everyone like a drill sergeant (with much less screaming), or hyperventilating in the toilets.

    We don’t have much in this online space to make us stand out, for goodness sakes, at least let us be seen as ethical.

  • Ducklings and advice on weddings please?

    Oh my word has it been a big week over here. Not only did I get engaged and get quoted in the newspaper, but yesterday I sold another one of my ducks to Lauren (I hear he’s going to be very tasty), and had another six ducklings born. Now I’ve just got two ducks left sitting on eggs, so a minor duckling explosion is likely to happen again soon.

    I’m still very excited about getting engaged, although I started researching prices of things and had to walk away from the computer. I have a budget, it’s very tight and very tiny and I will get married and it will be fantastic, regardless of the fact that we won’t be having white linen napkins and a sit down dinner.

    Considering the Internet is very clever and appears to be populated with women and men who have married someone, I would love to ask for your wedding stories if that’s possible?

    What did you do that worked brilliantly and you loved?

    What did you think you would love, but it didn’t work out so well?

    And what did you do to cut costs?

    When I say I’ve got a very small budget, think tiny. Teensy. Like, I’m planning on getting married for under $1000 if I can do it. Also, if you’ve got suggestions for where to buy cheap things, I’m all ears. I priced wedding invitations and somehow, I think I might be making and printing my own. Ebay looks good so far too.

    I guess the big thing is a dress of some description and enough good food and company to have a fantastic party afterwards.

    And in unrelated news, my garden is going relatively well, for dirt that hasn’t had anything done to it for years and therefore, has no nutritional goodness in it (yet). (Watch me plant the entire thing in green manure crops this winter)

    Tiny female pumkin flower – the first one on this particular vine.

    Not sure what type of pumpkin this is, my seeds were a heirloom variety for cooler areas. It could be a butternut. It looks delicious though. It’s about 20cm long at the moment.I’ve got another two bigger ones on different vines, both different types.

    And my tomatoes are doing well enough, even if the plants are smaller than what I’d hoped for and the fruit is steadfastly refusing to ripen up yet. A frost a few days ago killed the tips of some of the plants, but they will survive. As a side note: Frost? In February? Come on Tasmania, I know we haven’t had a summer, but really?! REALLY?!

    Anyway. Wedding tips. Give me all you’ve got.

  • What I’ve been up to lately

    So!

    Since MONA FOMA, I’ve been relatively busy with various things, the Australian Blogging Conference is the main one, but there is other stuff going on.

    I’ve been trying to keep the resume part of Sleepless Nights updated, but I’m not sure how much I’ve remembered to share here (as opposed to twitter and facebook).

    Last Friday, I spoke again to Ryk Goddard on the morning show (ABC Radio) about parenting and whether or not we’re still fulfilled by it. I’m still waiting for a copy of the MP3 to show up, but once it does I’ll upload it and people can listen if they want. Mum came in with me and for live radio, I think we did okay. I was definitely less nervous this time!

    Earlier this week I got to answer some questions from Bec Fitzgibbon about family on social media and how I feel about my mother using facebook and twitter (hint: I talked her into this whole thing) and the article was published in the newspaper today. You can see an online version here. Quite pleased to be in an article alongside actors nominated for Oscars as well.

    Hello to anyone coming over from The Mercury too, if you’re interested, have a poke around. My “Best Of” can be found here and you can read more about me here.

     

  • So it would appear that I am getting married

    Nathan and I have always done things backwards.

    We got together and moved in almost instantly.

    We had a baby, bought a house and then had another baby.

    We’ve been together for over six years now and we knew we’d get married one day. Eventually.

    Today, Nathan proposed to me, in the middle of our chaotic household.

    Of course, I said yes.

    So now, we’re getting married.

    This is going to be fun.