Author: Veronica

  • And we’re going back to hospital

    My bags are packed, the children are prepared, and we are almost ready. I’ve put credit on all my devices, packed Evelyn’s favourite books and socks, and spare clothes for me.

    Sadly, we’re not going on holiday, or anywhere fun. Instead, Evelyn is being admitted to RHH tomorrow for a week to teach her how to eat. A team of nurses and a speech therapist will be at hand to watch Evelyn feeding, offer suggestions and take over where necessary. We’ll be working on cutting down her breastfeeds to almost nothing, while upping her intake of real food and milk from a cup or bottle.

    Today, the plan is that we’ll be getting gate leave each night to come home and sleep in our own bed, before heading back to the hospital every morning. I’m hoping this is the plan we get to keep. There’s really nothing worse than sleeping on a hospital recliner.

    I’m not looking forward to it, frankly. But it’s a good plan – the best plan under the circumstances, and my dread is a selfish thing. Dread of having to keep an energetic opinionated toddler entertained for long hours with no one to give me a break.

    I looked at Nathan the other day and said “but what if she eats really well in the hospital?”

    That’s my biggest fear. That we’ll get in there and she will be amazing, taking all her nutrition easily.

    Nathan reminded me that she won’t be good for an entire week. No matter how much novelty is to be found in a new highchair (she detests hers) and new people, she won’t keep it up for the whole time.

    He has a good point.

    She’ll also be having more bloods taken, one lot to do a genetic screen, just in case there is something there we’re overlooking, and standard iron/vitamin D/liver function tests again. Hopefully her anaemia has resolved with the last few months of iron supplements.

    So, that’s where I’ll be for the next week. In and out of the hospital with Evelyn. Again.

    Hopefully at the end of it all Evelyn will be eating enough real food to avoid an NG tube. We’re not even interested in getting her to eat textures yet, just to eat enough purees to survive without breastmilk.

    Wish us luck.

  • And this is why you shouldn’t decorate your Christmas tree with cats

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    And this is why my Christmas tree is full of holes and broken branches.

  • Emerging again. But not like a butterfly.

    So, wow. November, hey? What a ride that was. I wrote feverishly, creating giant plot holes that I lost myself in. I threw my hands in the air and shouted at my characters to behave, and rewrote their back stories when they wouldn’t. I’m attached, and finished, and glad to be done.

    I’m also suffering from NaNoWriMo hangover. I haven’t written any fiction in five days and it feels strange to not have any pressure, or plot points hanging around in there. If you tap on my head, it’s hollow, written out and written down.

    By the end, I was averaging 2k words a day, mostly written in a frenzy after Evelyn fell asleep each night. I lost sleep, tapping away at my laptop until midnight, making the characters dance to my whims.

    And now it’s over, it feels like I’m emerging again. Not like a butterfly – more like a mole. Or something that lives underground, creeping around in the dank depths of insanity.

    It’s Summer now, and long warm days are the perfect things for writing – or for thinking about writing, while actually playing in the garden.

    The benefit of all this concerted effort in November, are the habits I form. Writing doesn’t take as long. Putting words down on the paper is a faster, smoother process.

    The other benefit of NaNo are the people you meet. Other writers, who understand the insanity of making up lies to tell people on purpose. Of creating people who are entirely real, and entirely fake.

    In a few weeks, I’ll pick up my rough draft again and read it through, red pen in hand. I’ll slash and burn, and rebuild, and write. I’ll beat it into submission, and make something of it. Because that’s what I do. I write. Writers write.

    After that, who knows?

    I do know I am glad November is over, crazy brilliant fun that it is. My poor brain needs a small holiday, and I am happy to relax into this, the holiday season, with books and notepads and plans for the New Year.

    Did you do NaNoWriMo? Did you win?

  • How much to spend on kids this Christmas

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    It’s that time of year again. Car parks in the shopping centres are becoming increasingly crazy and a little old lady nearly ran me over in her quest to find candy canes that hadn’t been shattered to pieces by excitable toddlers.

    It’s a strange time of year. School is wrapping up finally and people, while supposed to be infused with holiday spirit, are just seeming grinchier.

    I blame money.

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  • Cats and Christmas do not mix

    I tried to take a photo of my Christmas tree the other night. Pretty lights flashing, tinsel catching the light, and a half grown cat clinging to the trunk of the tree, freaking out and destroying the entire thing.

    Christmas trees were not made for households with toddlers and cats. My floor is littered with baubles, torn down, thrown away, batted around. There is a thin veneer of glitter over everything; the herpes of the craft world.

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    It was warm today, pushing 30C during the afternoon. Evelyn ran around naked, refusing to eat and drink. By 5pm she was angry, tired, thirsty. She flailed, and fought, and screamed, and refused everything.

    We went to bed at 5.30pm, with a couple of books and a soft blanket. 90 minutes later she wasn’t asleep (dammit) but she was ready to join the household again. I’m not looking forward to Evelyn in summer. She doesn’t deal well with heat, and when you add liquid refusal to the mix, it has the potential to be an incredibly crappy few months.

    But at least it will be crappy with sunshine. These are the silver linings.

    We see her doctor this week. I’m nervous, hoping to find a solution to all the feeding issues, but also hesitant to pin too much hope on one person. There are no silver bullets here. I learned to stop hoping for magic a long time ago.

    What we do have is a strong team, a dietician and speech pathologist advocating for us, and a support network spanning the entire Internet.

    I am more grateful than you know.