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On fiction, lies and envy

by Veronica on February 17, 2012

in Blogging

Sometimes, I find myself envying song writers and poets. Not because I feel inferior (although I do, sometimes) but because their version of written reality seems less sharply defined than mine.

I think that is the problem with writing mostly creative non-fiction. I’ve got free rein to be creative in how I write and edit a story, but at the end of the day there is truth. The things I write about here, they’re happening to me, in real life.

It takes a lot of my brain cells to work out how I want to continue writing, when the itch is there, but there is nothing tangible that I can put my finger on to write about.

Some days, the blog posts flow like water and I press publish and everything is great. Other days, the itch to write is intense, but there isn’t the time to write fiction (have you tried writing fiction with two children demanding cuddles and lunches and playtime?) and nothing especially exciting is happening here.

I have two blogs, the other of which is ostensibly for writing. It’s meant to be for the short pieces of fiction (which go down like a lead balloon in Internet-Land) and the unreal realities, for the untruthiness and the warped reality. Sadly, it’s also sorely neglected and almost entirely truthful.

I think that might be the problem with the Internet. The Internet demands truth and raw ripped souls. It is an insatiable machine, filled with LOL-cats and fuzzy bunnies and the dark dark undercurrents of don’t you dare lie to us.

I’ve written fiction on the other blog, tagged it as fiction and still had readers assume that it was a representation of my life. It was …… uncomfortable. For me, anyway – probably not so much for them.

Sometimes, I am drawn to starting a new blog, one filled entirely with lies. Stories of sex and death and art and music, all wrapped up together and quietly, somewhere, tagged as fiction. The urge to deceive, to create a whole world that is entirely my own – that appeals to me.

Then I wonder – wouldn’t I be better off putting that energy into some of the fictional pieces I am meant to be working on? (Yes. Yes I would)

But the urge is there, and I expect it will remain – at least until I can comfortably write fiction every day and save the Internet from wanting to lynch me for it.

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The Dresden Dolls at MONA FOMA [photos] #mofo2012

by Veronica on January 20, 2012

in Blogging

Last night, I was lucky enough to see The Dresden Dolls perform at MONA FOMA. I took my camera, to see if I could get any decent photos and voila, here they are. The Dresden Dolls have definitely been the highlight of MOFO for me so far and they were amazing to see live. Brilliant performers.

We also have a few shots of Brian Ritchie in here, because at one point, he played bass on stage, alongside them.

Nice.

Also, I would like to have it noted that despite having a few difficult moments, I did not throw up on anyone. Can we all please thank my doctor for prescribing anti-nausea meds? On the flip side, the continued (and worsening) morning/evening/all fucking day sickness would suggest that the tiny little fetus is still alive. Which you know, is nice. The wanting to puke? not so much.

As always, images are copyrighted you guys. If you’d like to use one, email me.

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It’s really quite a vicious circle

by Veronica on January 9, 2012

in Blogging, Soapbox

So, picture this:

You start a blog. You write stories, you read stories, you comment on stories. Slowly, people drift towards you and read your stories. Three, six, twelve months in, you’ve got a popular platform, full of stories and the traffic, while not spectacular, is decent enough.

First, one PR company notices you. Then another and another and another.

And you’re flattered, you really are. You write stories on the INTERNET and suddenly, these real companies want to send you real things, to write about. You accept something here, a little thing there. You amaze yourself with what you can do, with what people want to give you.

The stuff accumulates in a box under your desk, or maybe it’s under your bed. There is stuff everywhere and a feeling, hanging over your head, like you’re forgetting something.

You’re trying so hard to keep up with the stuff, that you don’t realise you haven’t written any stories lately.

The emails flood in, but not the comments. Traffic doesn’t drop – much – but it doesn’t grow either.

Companies love you, but new readers don’t stay long. Giveaways coax in the traffic, but it drifts away again.

You notice that you aren’t telling stories when you find yourself clenching your teeth at night, trying to work out when to write about the stuff sitting under your desk, gathering dust. When nothing fits into your schedule anymore, when you’re trying to keep everyone happy and failing.

So maybe you say no to the stuff. Or maybe you add a disclaimer that you’ll accept the stuff, but not always write about it. Maybe you quit, because it’s all too much pressure and like hard work.

Or maybe, you’ll just start telling stories again. They’ll bubble over and out and you’ll try and find your balance – that knife edge where you’re only writing about the things you want to write about, without being guilt tripped into anything else.

But you’ll backslide, because guilt trips are everywhere. Children are starving to death and look at this great cause and omg someone should raise awareness.

Maybe you’ll notice. Maybe you won’t.

It won’t matter terribly much, but here’s the thing:

People love stories.

PR companies love people.

People do not love PR stories.

It’s a messy cycle and it’s easy to get caught up and spit out. The sludge of stats and subscribers and traffic and stuff and money and events and needtowriteaboutthis and pitch this and promote that and help the cause and and and…

It’s all just a bit much.

I want the stories back.

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I get a lot of really weird and crappy pitches to host guest posts on Sleepless Nights. Normally, I either send a polite email back, explaining why their post won’t fit, or I ignore them. Last night however, I couldn’t help myself and this exchange ensued, leaving me amused.

Subject: Proposal for a guest post for your blog

Hey,

I am Kate and I work for Parentingclan.com I’m trying to grow it by reaching out to other bloggers. I’ve been reading your site somedaywewillsleep.com some time and I’m a big fan. I’m interested in writing a guest post for you — something you’ve never posted on — and I have some ideas that I think your readers would love:

1.       Over parenting or Attached parenting: Which one would you choose?
2.       Change your child from spoiled to disciplined
3.       Make your toddler get down of your nerves

I know you’re busy, so I can write everything up and send it to you in one document, which you can drop right into WordPress. I’ll handle all editing, bylines, etc (feel free to edit) so this is super-easy for you. Plus I can give you 2-3 articles per month if that’s okay with your end as well.

All I want is li’l credit in terms of two do follow backlinks in author’s bio and no link would be embedded anywhere in the content.
Let me know what you think of the same.

Thanks,

Re: Proposal for a guest post for your blog

Hi Kate,

How do you get toddlers to get down off your nerves? I have a lot of trouble with my toddler climbing my nerves and I’m not sure how safe a ladder they make.

I’d also be interested in what you consider disciplined. I’m currently aiming to teach my children how to argue effectively, because I’m certain that a future in politics is the only possible choice for a female who insists that she is right all of the time and everyone else knows nothing.

Cheers,
Veronica

Re:Re: Proposal for a guest post for your blog

Hey Veronica,

I don’t have a toddler of my own yet. But yes my cousin has 2 of them. So I get to learn a lot from her like the way she handles them.
So if you want I can send you some of the tips in the form of an articlE.

What say ???

Re:Re:Re: Proposal for a guest post for your blog.

Hi Kate,

I’m not quite sure how you can write articles about toddlers if you don’t have any of your own. They’re an acquired taste, like oysters, or avocado. They smell worse though and have a tendency to leak bodily fluids everywhere.

Maybe you could babysit and toilet train a small goat for a month and then write about that? It would give you a crash course in managing a toddler and child services wouldn’t mind I don’t think. I think my readers would be fascinated by your goat experience.

Veronica

So far there is no word on the goat experiment. I can only assume that she loved my idea so much, she is out there right now looking for a goat to babysit, so that she can report back.

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Finally, small businesses have jumped on the social media bandwagon. Sure, it took them two years to catch up to the rest of us, but here they are finally, tweeting and facebooking away.

It’s good, isn’t it?

Well…. maybe not.

When I find a new product that I love, the first thing I do is hunt them down on twitter, or facebook. This way, I keep track of lots of products I enjoy, through various social media channels – although twitter is the biggest way I follow.

What I’ve noticed happening though, is businesses using social media badly. Things like not responding to questions, refusing to acknowledge new followers and generally acting like they’re “bigger” than everyone else out there in this pond.

News flash: Social Media has lowered the barriers between businesses and consumers and consumers are not wanting to be talked at anymore. They want a conversation and a business they can relate to.

It’s called SOCIAL MEDIA for a reason – you use it to be SOCIAL.

When I spot small businesses on Twitter not following back their buyer base, I get grumpy. You’ve got 300 followers, but only follow back 30 people and refuse to reply to me if I ask you a question, or respond to your tweets? Sorry, but maybe I don’t want to buy your product anymore.

I see a lot of Tassie businesses wanting my money and yet, they won’t follow back on twitter. They won’t be drawn into conversation, they won’t respond to my tweets and a few of them have been downright rude.

If you can’t be polite to your clientele, then how do I know that you’re a business I want to support?

I can see that a lot of businesses are aiming at being “exclusive” and I call bullshit.

Exclusivity in your conversations does not make your product more desirable. It doesn’t make me want to visit your restaurant or buy your product, knowing that you have 800 followers and only follow back 30 of them. How is that the POINT of SOCIAL media?

It’s just mind boggling to me, that businesses would treat their customer base like they’re unworthy to be spoken to.

Here’s the thing – you don’t have to be knowledgeable about social media to do it well. You just have to be friendly.

That’s all we want.

And honestly, having a rude social media presence is worse than not having one at all.

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