Instead of reading your blogs, I’ve been stabbing out my own eyes. It’s less painful, frankly.

seagull Kim Foale

My son has gone out with his Daddy, my big girl is at school and my baby is asleep. I’ve just written three articles for The Shake, edited some others, eaten four chocolate biscuits and made a poached egg. My kitchen is semi-tidy, the cat litter is scooped and I’ve had a cup of tea. I watered the greenhouse and strung new lines for the beans. I snipped away the dying pumpkins, infected with plague, and I’ve eaten all the red cherry tomatoes, feeling vaguely guilty that I wasn’t saving them for everyone else.

I didn’t realise how stressed I was until I spent some time in silence, without anyone shouting at me. Isaac shouts because he is FOUR and FOUR YEAR OLDS have trouble with voice modulation. Amy shouts because her classroom is loud and it turns into a habit, trying to be louder than everything else. Evelyn shouts because she is frustrated to be almost nine months old with no body control. And Nathan and I shout because we’re dramatic, and even though our shouting often ends in laughter, it’s still loud.

So. Silence.

SIIIIILENCE.

It’s nice. Not that it’s actually silent, of course. The kittens are playing and I can hear the scritch scritch scritch of kitten paws through the house. Evelyn sighs occasionally, and there is music quietly running in the background, making sure it’s not so silent that the sound of my fingers on the keys will wake her up.

I’ve been annoyed at the Internet, frankly. The list of blogs I enjoy reading is steadily shrinking, as blogs I enjoy fall off the radar and stop updating and good blogs are failing to pop up in their place. Maybe I’m a snob, but frankly, when I click on a blog and there are eight typos in the first two paragraphs, I’m going to spend the next few days shitty about it. Because REALLY? THAT’S THE STANDARD I’M MEANT TO ASPIRE TO?

Sorry Internet, but I just can’t do it. I’m aspiring to be something better than pretty and whimsical. I want to read writing, and reality, and truth-telling, not housewives with nothing better to do than post photos of themselves wearing whimsical tutus and stupid looking flowers in their hair.

I just want more from you. Is that too much to ask?

Partly, this is Zoey and Kate’s fault.  They made me Editor at The Shake and now I can’t read anything without my Editor cap on, quietly picking up the run-on sentences needing commas and finding myself lying in a pool of blood when there’s a loose/lose error and someone’s fucked up there/their/they’re. I mean JESUS PEOPLE, READ YOUR SHIT BACK. It’s like you ENJOY watching me stab out my own eyes.

Their fault.

You can blame them.

Now my baby has woken up. I was stabbing my keys too hard.

I blame you.

 

 

Comments

122 responses to “Instead of reading your blogs, I’ve been stabbing out my own eyes. It’s less painful, frankly.”

  1. Dorothy @ Singular Insanity Avatar

    LOL, there are so few blogs I read any more these days. Where are the decent ones? Thank goodness you haven’t disappeared.

    Oh, you can always read mine, if you’re really desperate 😉

    1. Veronica Avatar

      There are lots of decent ones still, depending on what you like. I’ve been reading some for years. Unfortunately, some of the good ones have trailed off. Sad.

  2. Tina Avatar

    Please don’t read my blog. My lack of commas will be painful. x

    1. Veronica Avatar

      I promise to forgive you.

  3. Deb @ Bright and Precious Avatar

    Totally agree with you, Veronica. I’ve been wanting the bar to be raised for so long now – especially in the Australian blogging community. Come on, people! I know we all have different interests, but the there is a huge gap in the market for intelligent creative and real writing on the internet.

    1. Veronica Avatar

      YES. But WHERE have all the writers gone? Disappeared. Fffft, into thin air.

      1. Deb @ Bright and Precious Avatar

        There are still a few writers out there, it’s just a matter of finding them. I, for one, consider myself a writer committed to quality. Karen Charlton and Gillian Harrison from The Rhythm Method are excellent writers. And Lisa Lintern is an intelligent soul. I have a theory… maybe writers aren’t necessarily good at self-promotion? I know I could find a wider readership if I was better at marketing my work.

  4. Jen Q-M Avatar
    Jen Q-M

    Well don’t go looking for The REAL Geordie Armani then. It will send you over the edge. And whatever you do, do not read the post on Hatta Fort Hotel. I had to close that sucker up before my head exploded. :0

    1. Veronica Avatar

      I am not going to Google. I am not going to Google. I am not going to Google. (SOMEONE STOP ME GOOGLING)

      1. Jen Q-M Avatar
        Jen Q-M

        So did you?

        1. Veronica Avatar

          I did not. Admire my restraint!

          1. Jen Q-M Avatar
            Jen Q-M

            Outstanding. I simply wouldn’t purely so she doesn’t get the hit. Her writing is appalling, as is the way she uses social media and her attitude towards blogging and freebies. A very bad example.

  5. Glowless Avatar

    My tutu was definitely ironic, not whimsical.

    (Note to self: buy ironic tutu)

    1. Zelda Avatar
      Zelda

      There is such a thing as an ironic tutu? This I must see.

      1. Veronica Avatar

        If anyone can pull it off, it’s Glow.

        DO IT.

    2. Kim @ Frog Ponds Rock Avatar

      I am now searching for an ironic tutu Glow. This will come to a bad end.

      1. ZEdla Avatar
        ZEdla

        Pink tutu and pink hair Internet mum – DO IT!

    3. Veronica Avatar

      I NEED to see you in an ironic tutu. NEED.

    4. Fiona Avatar

      My tutus are genuine. Cos they go with my cat ears.

      Yes, the internet is sucking more and more each day.

      *bedtime*

  6. Dannie (A Dose of Dannie) Avatar

    Some of the blogs i have read are now gone . *sigh* At least yours is still around thank god! 🙂

    1. Veronica Avatar

      Yep, they all fade away. I’m still hanging in there though. By the fingernails, most days, but there you go.

  7. Danielle Avatar

    I agree. My list is also dwindling. The blogging community is over saturated and the bar is going down when it should be being raised.

    1. Veronica Avatar

      Which is a shame. I suspect there are still amazing blogs out there being started, it’s just harder to find them.

  8. Anna Spargo-Ryan Avatar

    Seriously?

    Has something happened since I was last on the internet that has turned it from a place for free expression into an obligation to provide us with limitless entertainment?

    If you want the internet to be better, be better at the internet. Cultivate, create, share. That’s how it works.

    1. Veronica Avatar

      Yes. I DEMAND the Internet entertain me. DEMAND. It’s my right as an Internet user, surely?

      And I am trying to be better at the Internet, but I am ONLY ONE PERSON and I mostly have a baby attached to my front and PLEASE HELP ME.

      1. Anna Spargo-Ryan Avatar

        … I see you have taken my comment as it was intended.

  9. Katy Potaty Avatar

    Wet my pants laughing.

    But unfortunately, it’s the bloody truth that was the hardest to read. I’m also losing favourite blogs, as their authors are become too damn popular and are busy at conferences and conventions and launches.

    1. Veronica Avatar

      Popularity is a curse. We should eschew it in favour of hand knitted socks and whimisical photos.

      1. Fiona Avatar

        I read one blog for the hand knitted socks, but she’s been doing that for like 10 years, before it was cool and when it was still daggy as 🙂 I love her 🙂

        1. Veronica Avatar

          Dude, I had a pair of hand knitted socks. They were the BEST in Winter. Until the dog ate them.

          1. Bells Avatar

            There’s technical skill and joy in hand knitted socks and blogging about them is part of that joy. It’s the sane as blogging about your farm animals or any other skill you choose to celebrate.

            1. Veronica Avatar

              I can imagine. I like knitted socks.

  10. karen @ the rhythm method Avatar

    Be the change you want to be in the world. Instead of hissing with your keys, make them sing.

    1. Veronica Avatar

      My keys make more of a clickety clackety sound, but I did have a snake under the fridge once and that probably made my fridge sound hissy, so I’ll keep an eye out for snakes.

  11. Keshvar S Avatar

    I have a hard time reading poor copy (that’s not to say mine is amazing) but I am a sucker for proper grammar and spelling. Although I have been known to overlook the errors if the content has been worthy. Having said that, blogs are a creative outlet for most so perhaps the little things (or how mad they may be driving the likes of you or I with poor spelling) don’t matter to them.

    1. Kim @frogpondsrock Avatar

      I agree with you Keshvar, I used to read a blog years ago and the author was overfond of ellipses but oh my word she told a rollicking good yarn, so I was able to ignore the ellipses as she drew me into her world.

    2. Veronica Avatar

      I’ve read some amazing stories with less than stellar grammar/spelling. Sometimes, the story is just that good.

  12. river Avatar

    You want clever writing and real life and stuff?
    That doesn’t describe me at all.
    I hope you find what you are looking for.

    1. Veronica Avatar

      But you are lovely and you post interesting things, and that counts too.

  13. cat@jugglingact Avatar

    I don’t think you have ever read mine – but do remember I am writing in a second language.

    And I agree – golden golden silence

    1. Veronica Avatar

      The silence was blissful, frankly.

      I need to add new blogs to my reading list and I think yours needs to be at the top 🙂

  14. Sandra Avatar

    I’m with you! I love good grammar and carnt stand long sentences that go on forever with no comers to be saw and when their are no good storeys to be had alot of the time its course them people just carnt right or spell and over use of exclamation marks ruly annoys me!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Had to be done.
    I have a newish blog (nothing like my sample of writing displayed above) and would appreciate some critique. Interested? You could do it out of the goodness of your kind sweet heart! Have a think about it … Anyone?

    1. Veronica Avatar

      My poor poor eyes. MY EYES. I laughed though.

      I’ll have a look!

      1. Sandra Avatar

        Visine anyone? Glad you appreciated my humour at least.

        Feedback from anyone is welcome. I enjoy blogs from many of the women I see commenting here, and as a new blogger am a bit too keen to read them ALL! #gettingnosleep

        Cheers
        Sandra 🙂

  15. Zoey @ Good Googs Avatar

    I accept full responsibility for everything. For the heightened sense of good writing. For the idea that the internet is losing its sense of humour. For EVERYTHING.

    My favourite, favourite story about an author which I barrage people with regularly and I fully intend to bore you with again here is a disagreement between an author and an editor over a word. The author wanted to use the word. The editor wanted it changed because (he argued) it would not be in the reader’s vocabulary. NO one would get it. The author responded ‘what’s the worse thing that happens? They pick up a fucking dictionary?’ And the word stayed. The lowest common denominator, no matter how popular is never worth aspiring to.

    1. Veronica Avatar

      It’s all your fault and I love that story.

  16. karengreeners Avatar

    I’ve felt the same way – hardly read any of them any more. Its the sponsored posts, giveaways, recipes and other schilling that I am tired of. I want the storytellers. There are a few of us left, but you have to look for them.

    1. Veronica Avatar

      I think like someone said above, maybe the best writers aren’t the best marketers of their own work. Which is why they’re so hard to find!

  17. Carly Findlay Avatar

    Yes, this. So much.

    Good quality writing is dropping off. When I find a gem, I bookmark it quickly.

    And I agree with the need for the bar to be raised and proof reading to be more discerning. As an editor in my day job, I can’t read blogs without editing, and many make me grimace. Especially the misuse of apostrophes. Apostrophe’s. Apostrophes’. Apostrophes’s. 😉

    1. Veronica Avatar

      Maybe the good blogs are just being drowned out by the self promoters? I think we need to share the good blogs, so we can all partake.

      1. Carly Findlay Avatar

        I try to share “the best thing I’ve read today” across my social media platforms at least twice a week. And the pieces are always good writing, sometimes from the unknown bloggers.

        1. Josefa @always Josefa Avatar

          oh, this has made me very happy xx

  18. Susie Avatar
    Susie

    Your blog, as I have said before, is one of the very few I read now.

    Xxx

    1. Veronica Avatar

      Thank you Susie. x

  19. Denyse Whelan Avatar
    Denyse Whelan

    I agree.
    I am glad that someone with gumption has said what was needed.
    I read fewer blogs as there is little “news”.
    My other reason is that my work now has taken me away from the blog and back into the world of education where I’ve found a great space again for me.
    That said, I have offered to write for The Shake but this has never been taken up.
    Now I would be far too anxious about what would await me from…eeek!
    THE EDITOR.
    Congratulations, Veronica! Denyse x

    1. Veronica Avatar

      I’m full of gumption. Sometimes to the exclusion of everything else 🙂 The Shake is still in its baby days, I’m sure we’ll get around to using all offers eventually!

  20. Amy R Avatar
    Amy R

    Oh V! I gave up blogging for an entirely different reason. And Nick is busy working away, not writing. I should totally go get a horse whip and make him write, shouldn’t I?

    But, the good news is that I’m usually around if you want email conversation. He’s decided to pretty much ground me to indoors with short outdoor trips until the yellow haze of pollen goes away. And even then, I won’t be allowed to do much beyond read to the goats, collect eggs, and pet the ponies.

    I’m always in need of entertainment. And I’m about to start some warm season crops indoors, so we can always compare notes! Just don’t critique my writing. I write how I talk, commas for pause in speech and thought and all!

    xxoo

    1. Veronica Avatar

      You should! I need more writing from Nick. Hell, I’ll settle for partially completed manuscripts (I NEED the next few chapters of the NaNo novel I read).

      I won’t critique your writing. I often write how I talk as well – especially here on Sleepless Nights and on Facebook.

  21. Miss Cinders Avatar

    I am The Typo Queen who wears silly flowers in her hair… so glad you don’t read my blog or I could have been offended!

    MC x

    1. Veronica Avatar

      There is always room for silly flowers in any life. Heh. For the record, I haven’t seen any blogger with silly flowers in their hair lately, but the imaginary blogger who fits the “full of whimsy” category inside my head ALWAYS has a frangipani in her hair.

  22. Becky Avatar

    You realize the first thing all of us did was scramble over to our recent post and start proofreading it anxiously, right?

    For the record, I <3 that my blog is totally my own space, with zero money to be made, and that I can ellipsis and stylistically fragment myself all over the place. It's like diarrhea of the ellipsis over at my place, and there ain't no one who can tell me to stop.

    PS: Remember the days when one baby at home seemed like a hardship, instead of a relaxation exercise? I do. Now excuse me while I sigh wistfully.

    1. Veronica Avatar

      Absolutely. Therefore, JOB DONE.

      I love your blog, ellipses and all. Your storytelling is just brilliant.

      And DUDE. ONE KID? Who complains that one kid is hard? Arseholes, that’s who. And we used to be them. (That said, Baby Amy was rather screamy and sleepless.)

      1. Amy R Avatar
        Amy R

        Baby Kate was screamy and sleepless too. It wasn’t pleasant. Riley, OTOH, was easy peasy for a baby. Always happy, even when pukey. Either of you want to guess what the next one will be like? Anybody taking bets?

      2. Fiona Avatar

        Dude, I’ve only got one kid and I still complain! Proportionally, of course.

        Worst bit is, if he stuffs up lose/loose or they’re/their/they’re in his homework, it’s not a trivial matter. It’s the wrath of the Parent-of-an-Only micromanaging his ass. When it comes to grammar, for goodness sake – somebody think of the Only Children!

  23. Amy Avatar

    Ohhhhh… Are we supposed to proofread? 😉

    1. Veronica Avatar

      😛 Only for my benefit. Hehe.

  24. Linda Avatar

    I can’t stand there, their and they’re being mixed up. I’m a teacher and you’d be amazed how many teachers get it wrong. It’s soooooooooo frustrating!!

    1. Veronica Avatar

      I thought there/their/they’re was something we were all taught in primary school? How does one make it through Uni without knowing how to use them correctly?

      1. Linda Avatar

        I ask myself that all the time. Is it too much to ask to proof read a text message or Facebook update?? We drum it into the kids to reread their work but many, MANY don’t do it themselves 🙁

  25. Vanessa @ babblingbandit.me Avatar

    Hey Veronica.

    I read all your posts by email but rarely comment. Sorry. This post resonated with me. I can’t stand whimsical blogs either yet they are the ones getting the numbers and on the ‘best blogs’ lists. My blog has no whimsy – it is raw, violent, R rated at times. My numbers are small. But my grammar, punctuation and spelling are impeccable. I was an editor in a previous life too.

    So maybe it is not the bloggers, they are just responding to the demand.

    I don’t know but I’ll still keep writing R rated because my life was little bit R before it got downgraded to a G when my son arrived.

    Great post. V.

    1. Veronica Avatar

      I’m not against whimsy. Some fantastical things are full of whimsy. I just like The Bloggess’ version which is “Full of MOTHERFUCKING whimsy” rather than cutesy whimsy. We all need more motherfucking whimsy, and less gauzey photos. In my opinion, of course, which counts for very little most of the time.

      xx

      1. Vanessa @ babblingbandit.me Avatar

        Maybe it is a bit harsh to say I “can’t stand them”, I just don’t relate to girly whimsy. I certainly find it difficult to tolerate bad copy. Mostly though, it is the sameness of so many blogs that drives me nuts. It looks like they all use the same web designer! V.
        PS I seriously need to check out The Bloggess!

    2. Kimberley M Avatar

      Totally with you on this Vanessa! Kx

  26. Nathalie Brown Avatar

    i well tries a lot moore haredest too do my bestest 😉

    1. Veronica Avatar

      Haredest makes me think of well dressed hares. I don’t know why.

      1. Kim @ Frog Ponds Rock Avatar

        I think you were thinking of Harefest” Veronica, the traditional “running down of the hares”

        1. Veronica Avatar

          No, I was thinking of hares in top hats, but we can discuss Harefest too if you like. The Internet NEEDS MORE HARES.

          1. Kim @ Frog Ponds Rock Avatar

            Yes, yes it does. I will talk to Philadelphia Hanson-Viney about it, Philly makes the most gorgeous ceramic hares, http://curiousbox.wordpress.com/ gorgeously macabre that is.

            1. Veronica Avatar

              I love Philly’s work.

  27. Jen Avatar

    I know my blog goes in stages of writing longer posts and being lazy and letting the photos shine. I get sick of the sponsored posts that abound in many blogs these days but at least when they’re up front about it I can ignore if I choose. I miss the good old days I guess.

    1. Veronica Avatar

      Mine goes in stages too. I went through a sponsored post stage, but now it just bores me, and so I’m not doing them anymore.

  28. Tegan Avatar

    This is the reason I don’t have a blog reader. I only have a couple of blogs that I read religiously, the rest I just read if their title catches my attention when it pops up on Twitter. I don’t do cute. Not really sure if I can pull it off. I sometimes do fluffy if I feel like my writing has been a bit heavy lately but it’s definitely not something that comes easily.

    1. Veronica Avatar

      I love my blog reader, because I do follow around 50 blogs religiously. Obviously most of them only update a few times a month!

  29. Sharon @ funkenwagnel Avatar
    Sharon @ funkenwagnel

    Love this. You know Veronica, every time I write a blog post, I proof read it, then hit publish. THEN I find the typos. Then, the only thing I can think of as I’m quickly editing it again, is, I hope Veronica didn’t see this? Hehe

    1. Veronica Avatar

      I do the same thing. I always find a typo immediately after publishing.

  30. Kathy Avatar

    Well, I am mostly just doing book reviews and poems on mine these days so nothing much to see there, please ignore. Although I think it is mostly grammatically correct…

    1. Veronica Avatar

      I really enjoy your poems. I know I don’t comment, but I like reading them.

  31. Achelois Avatar

    Half my family are dyslexic, I hope they haven’t just read this post.
    I used to be good at spelling and grammar. Something happened in my brain and now I am not. I know not why.
    I got stuck in a genre of blog reading of my own making, now I just meander around pleasing myself in a haphazard fashion. Happy when I stumble upon anything that makes me think or makes me smile, even cry.
    I haven’t written anything on my blog for a very long time or even visited it. That happened when everything in the UK became about fighting the system. Its not that I don’t admire this I do. My thoughts on life just seemed too personal and somehow irrelevant when all around me are campaigning. Many blogs that I enjoyed because they were personal and all about everyday happenings disappeared and I miss them. (I am worrying about the spelling of disappeared, however I shall let that anxiety go).
    My daughter’s boyfriend has just come out of hospital having had Guillain-Barre. They are living at my house, so despite silence being golden, I am grateful for the laughter & the chit-chat. So much better than the silence of the Intensive Care Unit and the smell of the High Dependancy Unit and the isolation of a side room to the side of the respiratory ward.
    I am a big fan of ellipses . . .
    Oh & bluntness, that’s probably why I like your blog Veronica.

    1. Veronica Avatar

      I have a few dyslexic friends and I don’t even notice their typos, it’s like my brain gives them a mental pass. I’m just railing against the pretty pretty blogs with no content except marshmallow, pretty much.

      I’m glad you have your daughter and boyfriend there to chat to you. I hope you’re well and think about you often.

  32. Becky from BeckyandJames Avatar
    Becky from BeckyandJames

    I have found myself more inclined to roll my eyes and click away from blogs these days, but I have to admit to being someone who rarely proof reads. Blogging has become something I squeeze in between putting children to bed and fielding all the NEEDS they suddenly have. Mostly, I’m just happy if I can press publish and I haven’t been working on it for a week. I don’t think it matters much as I seem to have lost most if my audience anyway. I would, however, appreciate other picking their game up for my entertainment.

    1. Veronica Avatar

      I’m usually that way inclined too, but holding up a blog as the pinnacle of awesome, when it’s that bad? Stab me, seriously. That’s what shat me off, not the typos themselves, but the implication of quality.

  33. Sarah @ Slapdash Mama Avatar

    Proof reading. Wot iz datt??
    I enjoy good writing too and see lots of it, and I also enjoy the escapist pretty pictures too.
    I guess we all want something different, I want amusing and light hearted stuff to distract me from the HORROR and MUNDANITY THAT IS REAL LIFE.

    1. Sarah @ Slapdash Mama Avatar

      ALSO you are a very good editor. I should know.

    2. Veronica Avatar

      I enjoy good photography, but I don’t think a lot of the gauzy escapist photos do it for me. That said, have you seen the photography by Tiff of Three Ring Circus? LOVE IT. And Fe Lumsdaine does amazing photography too.

  34. Rusty Hoe Avatar

    Is it okay to get shitty at bad grammar or punctuation on other blogs, but know mine is often full of typos? For some reason I can spot it with ease on other blogs, but with mine it’s usually only days later that I notice things. I also tend to write how I speak and that’s pretty shambolic at the best of times. Though in my defence even having only about 50% of regular blood flow going to my brain, I still know about these strange things called paragraphs. Something which many blogs seem to have forgotten these days.

    1. Veronica Avatar

      I often miss mine too, because I’ll publish and then someone will need me (SO MUCH NEEDY) and I’ll walk away and three days later, realise I fucked up. So this post is kind of mocking myself as well, because as well as I edit, I sometimes don’t for myself.

  35. tiff Avatar

    I’m a typos after publishing kind of girl and my writing style – meh
    I’m off to photograph myself in a tutu now and will avoid blogging altogether for the foreseeable future.

    1. Veronica Avatar

      Admittedly, I pick up loads of typos after I publish too.

      And if you photograph yourself in a tutu and make it all gauzey looking, I will republish it here, just to mock myself.

    2. Veronica Avatar

      If you give me permission, of course.

  36. Pamela Avatar

    It doesn’t bother me, I only look at the pictures anyway….

    1. Veronica Avatar

      Good thing the Internet has something for everyone then 😛

  37. Marti Avatar

    This post is like a breath of fresh air. I am so fricking excited that you’ve written it, and put your name to it. At risk of being shot down in flaming prose, the only place I’ve read sentiments like this is on GOMI! There are so many of us trawling around trying to grow our blog rolls with blogs we consistently love to read. I can excuse a few typos but when I have to read, reread, guess, or estimate a word that makes no sense I lose it! Pretty and whimsical pictures are lovely but give them a story please.

    1. Veronica Avatar

      Thanks Marti! GOMI scares me, but I still read there religiously.

  38. Marylin Avatar

    My reader has diminished with my move from google to bloglovin, and to be honest it’s quite refreshing! Though there are still far too many blogs (by people I really like) that are filled with reviews.
    I can’t go through one check of my favourite blogs without seeing probably 10 or more reviews, which does my head in! I just skip past them.
    And blogs full of typos?
    I click that wee red button with a cross on it up in the corner there…
    Can’t stand it! The worst is the “I seen/done” people. Cannot stand them… gah!!!
    Also? I’m totally blogging again. Haphazardly for sure, but blogging! 😉

    1. Veronica Avatar

      I got bored with doing reviews. It just seems a bit pointless, you know?

  39. Louisa Avatar

    I love you, this is awesome. I now feel very self conscious and want to re-read every post I have written. But I won’t because who has the time and I think you will forgive me my mistakes. xx

    1. Veronica Avatar

      Thank you. And I will absolutely forgive you for any typos. I can’t even remember noticing any.

  40. Fi @ My Mummy Daze Avatar

    Gawd you write so well it makes me wince a little. Hello envy!! I felt like I was right there with you in your kitchen as you were typing. I could hear the tapping of the keys on your keyboard and I could feel the moist breath of your cuppa on my cheek. A beautiful post to read. I’m glad you’re still updating your blog. You’ve never made me want to stab my own eyes out! Fi xx

    1. Veronica Avatar

      You’re so nice to me. I’m glad I don’t make you want to stab your eyes out 🙂

  41. Jodie Avatar

    Yes. You are right in asking where all the good blogs have gone.

    As for commas, I am now paranoid about them after my lecturer marked me down in a recent assignment for having too many. I, think, I may have, a phobia about them, now.

    Hope your eyes heal (heel) quickly.

    1. Veronica Avatar

      I’m certain there are amazing blogs out there still and I’m just missing them because a) time poor, b) I don’t click nearly as many blogrolls/comment threads as I used to (see, a) and c) there’s so many other meh blogs out there that they’re drowned under the noise. Which is sad.

  42. Marita Avatar

    Oh dear. Apologies for my apostrophe catastrophes. I proof read and double check and still manage to mess up the apostrophes and lord knows what else.

    1. Marita Avatar

      there was meant to be some humour in my comment too, but then I got distracted by bedtime story reading and hit reply without finishing.

      1. Veronica Avatar

        I hear you. Do you know how many times I’ve wandered away leaving a comment half finished? Ridiculous. I am so distractabl….. SHINY.

  43. Michaela Avatar

    There are great blogs around, even outside ye olde mummy blogger realm which seems to be the unnervingly self-promoting, self-congratulating dominant group in Aust.

    I’d look beyond the usual [Sponsored by Big W/Ford/K-Mart/Dettol trying to cash in on ANZAC Day] and the Kidspot Top 50,000 for something a little less blah. There’s a wealth of smart, funny and relevant beauty bloggers out there for starters *ahem*.

    1. Veronica Avatar

      You’re right, there are lots, but more recommendations always make me happy. I’m not into the beauty blogger thing really, more of a scrub my fingers through my hands and go type girl, but that’s why I love the ‘net. Something for everybody, regardless of interest. Even, yes, the whimsical photos (blech).

  44. Mother Down Under Avatar

    I must be living under a rock because somehow I have missed this entire blog snob debate!
    And it is one I actually feel quite strongly about.

    I think that part of the problem is that some of the blogs that are considered “popular” and that garner attention don’t really push the envelope in terms of writing.
    Small bloggers, like myself, see them as an example of success.
    And even perhaps consciously or unconsciously try to mould our own blogs in their image.

    I know that when I visit a blog and I see a huge number of followers and comment after comment, I feel like I should like that blog…as it seems everyone else does. So I might follow and comment and engage in the collective Kool-aid drinking, thinking that everyone is else is seeing something that I am missing.

    As for me, I am currently studying to obtain my masters degree so all of my impressive vocabulary and good grammar goes into those assignments…the stream of consciousness drivel that is left over goes on my blog!

    1. Veronica Avatar

      I didn’t even know it was a debate! I just got annoyed that there was a blog in the Kidspot list that had SO MANY typos. Head, explosion.

      I hear you on the feeling like you ought to like things. Way back in the beginning of my blog I used to follow a lot of US mummy bloggers because I thought I ought to. Then I realised that their faux intellectual crap just made me really annoyed, so I abandoned them. Maybe it’s the same here. This post seems to have touched a nerve with a lot of people though, so I’m not alone!

    2. Jackie K Avatar

      Mother Down Under, I know exactly what you mean. As a small (tiny) blogger too, I do sometimes get a bit perplexed reading some very popular blogs and thinking ‘I don’t get it’ and then ‘I must be wrong’. It can be hard to find your own voice too. Sometimes I’m writing a post and then realise I’ve been aping some style that isn’t mine, and I have to re-write it. And I am always trying not to be too cute, too cynical, too complaining, or too anything – though undoubtedly I am!

      I don’t mind the odd error as we’re all self-editing and those are going to slip through. But I admit I too get a bit peeved with blogs that consistently have spelling and grammar errors in every post.

      These days I have a small number of blogs I read regularly, and I have more or less given away doing link-ups and stuff (except occasionally). There were a couple I used to enjoy but they stopped, and I haven’t really found one I love, or where I love all the other contributors. I find it a bit boring sometimes.

      I’ve always been terrible at networking and promotion!

  45. Rach aka Stinkb0mb Avatar

    Blogging doesn’t seem like blogging anymore and that kinda makes me sad. It sometimes feels like bloggers have forgotten that in order to have a “successful” [as in engaging it’s readership] blog, they actually need to write stuff that makes their readers want to come back.

    Sponsored shit does not make a reader always want to read anything else you’ve written. Neither does reading about some expensive “junket” you’ve been sent away on or cooking appliance you’ve been given or tickets to a concert etc

    I’ve stopped reading so many of the old regular [also popular] blogs because I want to read writing, good quality writing about life etc. Blogging used to be about writing, I miss those days.

  46. Lexie Avatar

    That was a wonderful post and at several points I just wanted to shout a hearty Amen Sister! It is so frustrating to read things that are poorly written and its disappointing to read great writing when the spelling is poor. Maybe I’m a snob but I think it should be a point of pride to present something that was as you had intended. People do intend to spell things correctly, don’t they!?!

  47. Gayel Avatar

    I have sat here thinking about if I am one of those blogs that rendered you eyeball-less and I sincerley hope not! Just lately I have felt the need to be able to relate to the blogger as a person I would have as a friend for me to keep reading. Glitz and glamour leaves me feeling less engaged. I for one cannot afford much of what some bloggers tout. If I review something it is because I think it would be of interest to my readers not because of the business transaction. But I do understand this is how some bloggers make a career of it. Interesting times I say.