Despite Nathan consistently doing things that set my teeth on edge and make me want to throw coffee cups at him, I am still rather in love with him and we’re getting married.
Actually, counting down, we’re getting married in around 5 months and aside from reading a few magazines kindly sent to me by Sharon and Naomi, I have planned absolutely nothing.
Okay, that’s a lie. We have the basic ideas planned, but the execution of the actual events that need to happen to allow us to get married, well, meh. She’ll be right.
I’m certain things are going to be fine. I mean, sure, we need to buy some stuff and buying stuff takes money, but it will all work out. Right?
Our plans are relatively fluid still – get married in our paddock, wear a pretty dress, have a celebrant, eat good food with friends and have a relaxing afternoon. Surely that can’t be too hard to pull off.
And then I remember that I need to work out where everyone will sit and how we’ll manage to have enough cutlery and where the tables should be set up and how to lock up 30* ducks and chooks who are rather too curious for their own good and are able to fly.
I also remember that we need to start writing down who we’re inviting and maybe think about getting some invitations printed and probably, maybe, we ought to start a List of Things that need to Happen.
So, we’re getting married and it’s going to be FUN.
Plus, I’ve been convinced into live streaming it online, for the benefit of my friends who are living too far away to come and celebrate with me in person.
Now I just need to find the money to pay for the bloody thing.
*30 minus 4 ducks, who are actually on the menu and therefore, don’t need locking up because they won’t be flying around.
Bugger that 😛 When is the date so i can book flights ? Love weddings 🙂 x
Live streaming wow! i wont need it cos i am so there hehehe (im getting an invite right)!!??? Anyway gotta check out my Tassie never been before so why not!
Friends of mine used this for invitations: http://www.paperlesswedding.com.au/home.php
Much more cost effective than printing : )
What a clever idea!
I am one of the owners of Paperless Wedding so its great to see someone recommending us! We do hope to take the pain out of the invites and RSVPs. Let us know if you are interested in using us as we would love to help you out!
Happy planning!
Can I suggest that you go Alaska style for your wedding. You wear nice dress, he wears nice suitish thing. Then you have a potluck bring your own cuttlery, you’re welcome to set up a tent affair? I’m excited to see what you do end up doing.
I think there are three things that test a relationship to see if it’s really strong enough. 1) Travelling overseas (in part because you are generally in one another’s company 24/7 and in part because things are bound to go wrong from time to time) 2) Planning a wedding and 3) Having children
But maybe that’s just because I planned my wedding and while it was completely worth it – it was not without it’s extraordinarily high stress level for me.
I love your plan. I hope it’s wonderful and easy.
LOL I love your plan for the four ducks. You’re right; it will be right. You’ll get there and it will be great. Five months is heaps of time.
The paperless wedding sounds like a good idea (depends on the computeressness – i reserve the right to make up new words – of your guests though); how about a wedding blog? RSVP via a very pretty online form. And somewhere for us to find all the photos and video 🙂
it sounds like it will be stunning. But in my experience, even the most simple events still require a little bit of forethought so yeah, get those small logistical things sorted and the ease and simplicity of it will be fine. We planned our Botanic Garden wedding in 9months and didn’t do most of the stuff wedding planners say you SHOULD do and it was plenty of time.
It’s going to be amazing!!!
Or check out Snippet and Ink http://www.snippetandink.com/ and scroll through at least a couple of pages for loads of weddingy goodness.
Plus — please think about handmade invites? They don’t have to be expensive, and you can personalise them so beautifully. I made all the invites for my sister, and my GF and I make them pretty regularly for people here in town.
I just love weddings! Relax and enjoy the whole process for yours. You’re only going to do it once… 🙂
Maybe you would like to make V’s invites?
I would, if she wanted me to.
Delegating! I am terrible at asking people to help, but if you’d like to, I would love that.
Done.
*swallows nervously*
Be prepared for a deluge of questions.
Goodluck – I am sure it will be fine, and that once you get started it will be all exciting and the planning will all get done in no time.
Your post is quite reminiscent of my own (hopefully sometime soon) wedding – we have the ideas …. its just putting them into something solid …. one day… when we have the money.
We organized ours in 6 months, so with your planning done you have already got month one of that done, so easy peasy!
I waited at a garden wedding once and don’t remember there being much in the way of seating. Perhaps something for any oldies who can’t stand for a long period, but otherwise, let them tough it out! LOL
Cutlery – bring their own.
A little bit of organising without the stress of a GREAT Big Deal will mean it will all go fantastically with laughter and fun and love.
OH and I popped down to the local registery office and then went to the pub. It was great but in retrospect I seriously ticked off my mother and sister. So a party is good. Also had I realised more organised events meant presents I may have rethought our impluse. But 24 years later we are still here. He drives me mad I drive him mad. It makes for an eventful marriage. Its not perfect and sometimes I threaten to run away, but then worry about explaining all my idiosycracies to someone else and think despite the fact he makes me want to throw coffee cups and scream a lot.I think I would miss him as well lol The best of marriages are made of all the things you described. If you kept saying oh my god he is soooooo purfect I would be seriously concernced.
This is exciting. I need excitement in my life and here you are Veronica, sharing yours. Thank you so very much. Live streaming – imagine me explaining to my husband what I am doing when he doesn’t even know I blog!
Oh friends who have organised the type of wedding you are planning, you know the good kind, where people don’t break the bank to find the right type of hat kind. Tell me, delegation is a good plan. So by way of hint – List 1 – Delegation List –
I know paperless is all eco friendly and all that but a hand made invitation can be so lovely, they don’t need to be expensive. Your mum is artistic, perhaps a photo montage, or a sketch (wink @ kim).
Whatever rocks your boat but doesn’t stress you out.
In saying all that. My sister organised a massive New Years Eve Party doing the website on line thing and it worked brilliantly. Non computer literate people had a buddy inviation which meant they had to talk to their buddy on the phone and they would print out their invite for the detail for them and answer on their behalf the RSVP bit. Perhaps you could have a Facebook Page for it. Although don’t quote me on that as I am not very good at Facebook etiquette.
Hand over the duck logistics to Nathan.
Oh and just because I always go on a lot, don’t forget Amy, I think she would love a list.
Lastly, don’t forget to book the person who is responsible for marrying you.
It will be fun. All you really have to do Veronica is smile a lot, and laugh, and I am afraid on your wedding day dance a bit,
This post has really cheered me up. Thank you. Wow, a real live, bloggy wedding.
Ok I am off but I’ll be back xxxxxx
Remember the thrift store if you don’t have the cutlery etc handy! No reason to buy everything new! You will be lovely and the day will be great. 🙂
One point to bear in mind – Notice of Intent to Marry – needs to be lodged by your celebrant no less than a month (+ one day, I think, so 32 days) before the wedding. Damn, I wish I’d done my celebrant’s thingy … I’d go down and marry you pair!
Screw seating plans. Let people sit where they are comfortable. Nothing worse than finding out you’re at the dud table with Aunty Mildred who smells like euclaptys and wants to know when YOU’re going to get married and wondering when to tell her you’ve been living with your gay partner for 3 years now…..
Seriosuly though. We had 170 guests. And no assigned seating. People just say wherever they wanted and it worked without a hitch. It was smooth, relaxed etc.
Ours was also an afternoon wedding, so afternoon tea -much easier (and somewhat less expensive) to cater for.
Definitely not doing a seating plan! The idea re seating is to try and get some hay bales, or similar so that people can sit down for the ceremony if they need to.
Hi Veronica. How exciting, I’d sort of forgot that you were getting married.
I remember getting majorly stressed about almost all aspects of my wedding, and the horrible pressure of trying to please everyone else first and then myself second. It was a very special day for us but in hindsight I wish we’d kept it way more simple.
What sort of dress are you thinking of? An actual white wedding dress? or just a nice party dress? I’ve got quite a few dresses from my pre-mum days that I will never wear again and I am happy to donate one – of course I’d send you pics first. Also I hosted a frock-swap party about a year ago and got to keep all the leftovers. Not sure if they’d all be your size though. Let me know if your interested and I’ll send some pics through.
P.s. i just had a review of the spare room wardrobe and I have 2 nice white party dresses too. That’s if your keen on the whole ‘virginal’ thing 😛
I’m thinking party dress, rather than white virginal. Hehe. I would love to see photos?
I’ll take some pics and email them to you.
Timeframe: by the end of the day I promise!
it all sounds wonderful!!!
ENJOY!!!!!!!!!!!!!
This will be YOUR (plural) Day. Arrange it however you want. It will be wonderful. The point of the whole thing is to publicly commit to each other and have fun. If there is anything I can do to help from here just let me know. If I win Lotto in the meantime, I’ll gatecrash 😉
It WILL be fun. Let your friends & family help out and it will be a breeze – just maybe not for the few ducks that will be on the menu…. 🙂
> wear a pretty dress that you already own–no cost
> serve finger foods, (duck pate w/crackers and chicken wings)–no cutlery (and no intruding poultry (because they’re on the table…))
> forget the seating plan, just make sure there are enough chairs and a few cushions.
> pray for dry weather.
> forget champagne and stuff, just make sure the hose is connected. Water is good for you.
finger food on a buffet and people sit where-ever.
I am a bridesmaid still, right? Best you be getting a sponsor to fly me out.
Like you have nothing else to do.
MWAH
xx
*sigh* I so wish I could be there! I’ll be there in spirit though! 🙂 x
I’m rather convinced that as a rule wedding days are nothing but relaxed afternoons. It’s exciting, swirliy, bubbly, high strung, emotional, teary, full of laughter and special moments but, well as far as I’m concerned I wouldn’t choose the word relaxed. We planned out in 4 months. At least we opted out for a low key one and even married on a week day. I think we started out this way because we our families are far from being united and we were anxious about quarrels coming back to the surface so if we kept things low key we wouldn’t be too disappointed if it came to worse. But as the weeks went by I found myself very caught up in the excitment and came up with more and more ideas. And we were surprised and overjoyed by the fact that everyone got along or at least pretended for a day. Even my divorced parents and it was the first time my mum was meeting my dad’s new significant other. Well she got sick from too much champagne and missed part of the evening so maybe that didn’t go too well I guess. We had our reception in a former train station turned into a “estaminet” (low key convivial restaurant) We did all the preparation on our own. The flower arrangements, the bouquet, the invits… my mom made my dress according to what i had in mind, in three days. For my husband we didn’t go to a wedding boutique but chose a grey suit from a regular men’s clothes shop. We had helium balloons and got feedbacks from Germany (we lived in the north of france then) where my husband’s grandfather was born. We had bookcrossing books to give away. lots of traditional games we had rented. things for people to write, disposal cameras (kids used those and they all came out rather failed) and a lot more. Only thing i would be differently is that I would rent the place for a longer time as i had told the guy it would be over by 1 or 2 and it went on so greatly that people would have stayed a bit more which would have been nice as the day went by so swiftly. The other one and that is a major one is that I would buy the services of a professional photographer or at least make sure i had on of the people there dedicated to shooting the whole event from all angles. That night we slept on an orient express train sitting in the restaurant’s garden and turned into a micro hotel and the day after we flew to Finland. Anyway, my advice, think homemade and cheap and to YOUR image. Our wedding ended up not costing much (honeymoon paid by my dad but I rummaged the net for the best prices and it was the end of the season in finland. We left with only a tourist guide, rented a car and went from place to place renting 30 euro log cabins by the lake for the night or even cheaper) It ended up costing nothing as when people asked what we needed we suggested cash as it is done here. and it all paid back for the expense. Maybe you might try to find a way to borrow the money and the use the money you get to pay back and I’ll sure you’ll be left with a little extra.
Now my turn to ask for advice; I have a one time opportunity (my inlaw becoming incredibly generous and kind) to get a new lense for my nikon camera. I love photography but don’t know a thing about it. Nice pictures always happen by chance with me. I’d love picture tiny details but i also like portraits which is what i do most with my twins and their friends. Would you suggest a macro or a prime lense? i was thinking a 50mm F/1.4??????
I have a 50mm f1.8 and love it – but I also have a 100mm macro and those are the lenses I use most often for everything. They both do great portraits, but the macro is better for small stuff, while still being quite a decent portrait lens.
Oh yeah and we had skipped the seating plan too. Choosing separate tables rather than a big long one and you move from one to the other.
last thing, link to some pics: http://minutepapillon8.canalblog.com/archives/2010/08/11/18277863.html#
I love the photos! It looks like a fantastic day.
I’m SO excited to hear we can all watch your wedding – that’s wonderful! BG Xx
We had friends who planned their wedding in just under a month. She said it was intense but simplified some decisions. If you know that you have to send your invitations tomorrow, then you just make the decision right away at the first or if desperate, second place you go. She didn’t have time for alterations on an ordered dress, so she was limited to what was in stock etc..
Not that either of those particular examples are helpful in your case, but you get the idea. Most of the “requirements” for a wedding are expectations that the wedding industry tries to sell to brides in order to increase their revenue. My biggest piece of advice? Delegate everything you can think of. Most people are thrilled to be special enough to be asked to be “part” of the wedding. Also? Skip wedding favours. Take
pictures of each table, or hay bale or whatever. And don’t take your honeymoon right
away; give yourself some time to recover from the preparation!
Oooh, live streaming – yay!
Also, I like the Alaskan thing – get everyone to bring a dish and some cutlery. Problem solved!
I am also fan of watching weddings especially couples that are close to my heart. I am not yet married but I hope I can have a wedding that is very memorable to us.
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