Author: Veronica

  • Exciting news

    I appear to have fallen pregnant immediately after the miscarriage. Which is a) lovely and b) absolutely ridiculous.

    I should never expect my body to do anything sensible and of course, getting pregnant twice in three months (after failing to fall pregnant for over two years) is EXACTLY the kind of shit my body pulls on a regular basis.

    I am cautiously optimistic, feeling lots more like I’ve been hit by a bus than last time and the nausea feels more like morning sickness and less like an EDS reaction to progesterone. Which is me saying that eating dry toast and crackers eases it slightly, whereas EDS + progesterone nausea needs drugs to fix it. We’re getting some of that too.

    Am I making sense, Internet?

    By my reckoning, I’m about 5 weeks now, which is early still.

    But there we go.

    Pregnant.

  • You don’t get to police the Internet

    Say that something gets written. Something you don’t agree with. In fact, it’s something that your moral standards find so terribly offensive that you’re moved to write something grumpy and grumble to your peers.

    And say, that in your grumbling, more offensive things are said. The torches get lit and the pitchforks come out. The mob moves in, only to find itself met by another, equally angry mob.

    People demand that everyone mark everyone else as spam on twitter so that the offensive content cannot continue. It doesn’t matter what side of the argument you’re on, the other side is WRONG and you must shut down the discussion, in case someone hears it.

    Offensive remarks are made on all sides and suddenly, there’s a flame war happening, with torches and BURN THE WITCH and shouting. Everyone is a bit hot under the collar.

    While I can see that Mob A has some valid points, Mob B has some valid points too.

    It all just feels like mud slinging, until someone shouts “LET’S TELL ON THEM! SHUT DOWN THE OFFENSIVENESS! STOP IT SPREADING!!”

    Because I have been here before. I have seen this happen before and no doubt I will see this happen again. Chickenliver vs Boobs, Injuries and Dr Pepper anyone?

    Cries of “BREACH OF TOS” “HORRIBLE HUMAN BEING” “I WOULD NEVER DO THAT!!!!!” get thrown around and people get angry. Blogs get reported (here there and everywhere, because everyone has a pitchfork by this point) and everyone feels vindicated.

    BECAUSE I’M RIGHT.

    Only, what if you’re not right? What if the other side is right? What if neither of you is right? What if this is not a black and white issue, but the whole thing is various shades of grey?

    Do you have the right to police the Internet, just because you’re standing on the (slippery) moral high ground and think that you’re right?

    Do you have the right to incite a mob to flag and mark as spam, just because something doesn’t fit with your sense of moral standards?

    The Internet is a huge place and there is something to offend everybody. There is also a red X in the corner of your screen that you can click to make the offensiveness go away.

    You can choose to stay silent, or speak out, as you choose. But whatever you do, you have to own that choice and wear the consequences. You have to own your words and stand by them.

    There is always someone who is going to disagree with you and there is a whole other conversation that needs to be had about transparency and business practices, but right now, I’m watching the mobs try to police each other and wondering why no one has realised that this whole thing isn’t really all that important.

  • In the aftermath of rain

    Sometimes, I forget how beautiful it is where I live.

    I’ve had a serious bout of insomnia lately and it’s left me feeling vaguely zombie like. Yes, there are things I want to talk about, but who has the energy?

    Instead, I took photos.

    You’re welcome.

  • Dramatic Light

    Sometimes, the light hits the surrounding hills just right, and I manage to catch how it looks in the 45 seconds before it disappears.

    These are the moments that I take to breathe, and to remind myself that everything will be okay.

  • Why businesses using social media badly, is worse than them not using it at all.

    Finally, small businesses have jumped on the social media bandwagon. Sure, it took them two years to catch up to the rest of us, but here they are finally, tweeting and facebooking away.

    It’s good, isn’t it?

    Well…. maybe not.

    When I find a new product that I love, the first thing I do is hunt them down on twitter, or facebook. This way, I keep track of lots of products I enjoy, through various social media channels – although twitter is the biggest way I follow.

    What I’ve noticed happening though, is businesses using social media badly. Things like not responding to questions, refusing to acknowledge new followers and generally acting like they’re “bigger” than everyone else out there in this pond.

    News flash: Social Media has lowered the barriers between businesses and consumers and consumers are not wanting to be talked at anymore. They want a conversation and a business they can relate to.

    It’s called SOCIAL MEDIA for a reason – you use it to be SOCIAL.

    When I spot small businesses on Twitter not following back their buyer base, I get grumpy. You’ve got 300 followers, but only follow back 30 people and refuse to reply to me if I ask you a question, or respond to your tweets? Sorry, but maybe I don’t want to buy your product anymore.

    I see a lot of Tassie businesses wanting my money and yet, they won’t follow back on twitter. They won’t be drawn into conversation, they won’t respond to my tweets and a few of them have been downright rude.

    If you can’t be polite to your clientele, then how do I know that you’re a business I want to support?

    I can see that a lot of businesses are aiming at being “exclusive” and I call bullshit.

    Exclusivity in your conversations does not make your product more desirable. It doesn’t make me want to visit your restaurant or buy your product, knowing that you have 800 followers and only follow back 30 of them. How is that the POINT of SOCIAL media?

    It’s just mind boggling to me, that businesses would treat their customer base like they’re unworthy to be spoken to.

    Here’s the thing – you don’t have to be knowledgeable about social media to do it well. You just have to be friendly.

    That’s all we want.

    And honestly, having a rude social media presence is worse than not having one at all.